What’s your general outlook on life?
Are you a cup half full or half empty? Or maybe your cup might have a hole in it and all the good
stuff just slips through and you don’t even notice it?
When things don’t go as planned do you only see the problem, the negative in the situation or do
you look for a positive?
Your mind is very powerful, so if you “think you can” or you “think you can’t” – you are right!
You are right because your mind will prove you right.
Your thought process will cause you to view situations in either a positive or negative light.
And because of this, you will look for (and find) facts, situations, actions that “prove” your thought.
Remember: Positive anything is better than negative nothing.
Think about this scenario:
You’ve booked a holiday to a beautiful sunny place, one that is known for sun, sand and fun. You
know that place, that one, the one you’re thinking about.
Now imagine (just use your imagination now) how excited you are about your upcoming holiday.
Think about where you’ve booked in to stay, that hotel or air bnb, holiday park,
whatever accommodation you’d love to be staying in.
Think about the excitement for you and your family as you’re packing, going to the airport, landing
and getting off the plane in that holiday destination and you are really pumped and excited about
Then the day before you are due to fly out, you look at the weather forecast so you can see just how
warm and beautiful it is going to be on the day you land in your sunny vacation place.
And guess what? The weather forecast is for thunderstorms and rain for the next two days.
What do you do – where have your thoughts gone?
Have you responded with “oh that’s just great isn’t it, there goes our holiday, the first 2 days are
going to be rained out”.
Do you look for the positive, the silver lining?
Do you think “oh, that’s not so good, but let’s see what else we can do to explore this wonderful
holiday destination” and go searching for new stuff to do?
By looking at the positive you are looking for a solution to the rained out days and you’re not
dwelling on the negative.
This small shift in perspective means that you are in SOLUTION mode and not focussing
on the problem. You are looking for the positive in this situation.
You never know what you’ll find – you might just find a wonderful new experience that you
wouldn’t have come across had the weather been bright and sunny.
So when rainy, cloudy times come your way – are you going to look for the silver lining and see
what else you can do. Are you going to sit and wallow in the rain or are you going to dance in the rain?
It’s up to you – you do have a choice.
“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks he becomes” ~Mahatma Gandhi (Indian Leader)
What are you thinking? Are your current thought patterns helping you lead a life of fulfilment
and opportunity, or are they holding you back and keeping you on the hamster wheel?
Next time something doesn’t go to plan, be aware of your thoughts, catch them and see if they
are wallowing in the rain, or taking advantage of the rain and dancing in it? If your natural
approach is to see the worst case scenario, look for opportunities on how you can use this
unexpected turn of events into a learning or growth opportunity. Better still, how can you
use this situation to take you on an even better path than the one you had planned?
If you can’t see the silver linings in situations and you want to be able to, seek out a Coach
or NLP practitioner and work with them, they will be able to help you look for the silver linings
and find something good in challenging situations.