Do You Have Limiting Beliefs?

What is something that you have never considered doing?

I want you to imagine that I am a Genie who has just appeared and I’m going to grant you 3 wishes.
But……. these 3 wishes have to be something you’ve never thought of doing before. And no matter what you wish for, this wonderful Genie can and will make it happen for you.

Think about it and ………..GO!     

What are your 3 wishes? 
Did you find that task easy or hard?    
Consider what made it that way?
Are you able to just create new things that you want to do or did you really struggle to come up with things, even though you knew the Genie could make it happen?
If you struggled with this exercise, your hidden limiting beliefs may be stopping you.  This is normal, we all have them and the thing is, we don’t even know that we have them – that’s why they are hidden and that’s what makes them Limiting Beliefs.
Everyone has a limiting belief of some sort and if you think you don’t have a limiting belief, your limiting belief is that you don’t think you have any.
Limiting beliefs are those things you instinctively believe about yourself that place limitations on your potential and ability.  They are buried deep in our sub/unconscious mind and they pop up or creep in to stop us doing things.
Some examples of limiting beliefs are:

  • I’m not good at ……
  • I can’t ……
  • Bad things always happen to me
  • I can’t lose weight
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of success
  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m not worthy
  • No-one loves me
  • I’m not heard

What makes us think these things?  Our life experiences do! 
Yep, we form these beliefs based on the environment around us.  Just because someone once told you that you weren’t good at something, doesn’t necessarily make it true.
If you were told as a young person that you “can’t do something” or that “you are no good at that”,of course you’re going to grow up believing that – but you may not even know that you believe it. 

It may be hidden so deep in your mind that you never recall anyone ever saying that to you, but chances are, someone probably did, a very long time ago.
Likewise, if you grew up and someone told you that you were amazing at ……. (drawing, art, story telling, music, sport, etc ), then you will enter into those activities with energy and enthusiasm because your powerful sub/unconscious mind believes it to be true.
Limiting beliefs are assumptions, that’s all.  They are assumptions that sit deep in our sub/unconscious mind and they influence how you think and act, a lot of the time without you even realising it.
What limiting beliefs do you hold about yourself?    
What are they stopping you from doing?
You can change if you want to, you can change that pattern of thinking by identifying and changing those limiting beliefs.
As a coach, nearly all of my clients work on changing limiting beliefs, I use gentle but powerful processes that can help you do this and I’m there to guide you on your journey.
If you want to change, reach out to an NLP Coach and work with them to change your limiting beliefs and allow yourself to step forward and explore with a more open mind so you can work towards your goals and dreams.

About the author

Helen Luxford is a Leadership Coach, Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner.  Helen’s passion is helping  stressed professionals turn overwhelm and uncertainty into calm and confidence in 6 weeks or less.

Helen is an experienced Executive and HR Leader.  Helen combines her corporate experience with her qualifications and skills in coaching, Neurolinguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy to provide tailored programs for her clients. 


Helen is the co-author of Amazon best-selling book, Heart Centred Leadership.


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